The right relationship will launch you to the heights of achievement; the wrong one will tether you to mediocrity. Your relationships will be your sources of greatest joy and your venues of greatest pain. Van Moody says, “When people show you who they are, pay attention.”
We need to undertake the important task of evaluating our relationships intelligently. We need to recognize the people with whom God has called us to walk in mutually beneficial relationships and to identify those who will derail our destinies or hinder His purposes for our lives. It is high time we cultivate our Relational IQs, understanding not only how to build great relationships but also how to avoid or skillfully exit bad ones.
Van Moody saw this need every day of his pastoral life, but he could not find a concise, practical resource for people who need to become more relationally savvy. He needed a beyond-the-basics study guide for Relational IQ. The People Factor is his solution.
God works in our lives through our relationships. Yet, all too often, we get our relationship advice from the most toxic sources we can find. The People Factor is based on the most effective, trustworthy relationship book of all time: the Bible.
If you hunger for a richer, more fulfilling life, your Relational IQ is the place to start. If you put The People Factor principles to work, you will become stronger, happier, and healthier in all your relationships. You will be a better spouse, a better friend, a better boss, a better parent, and a better person.
I thoroughly loved this book. I am currently in a place in my life where I am evaluating the relationships I am in, and this book was exactly the tool I needed to really dig deep into the heart of my relationships and make intelligent decisions regarding their place in my life. Moody offers many biblical examples of relationships and really brings to life many relevant points that can be practically applied to our relationships today. While reading this book, I’ve learned to look at my relationships much more objectively, and I’ve learned so much about myself and those in my life in the process.
Understanding that it’s okay, and even good to be choosy about who I surround myself with in my life is a freeing realization. Moody gives great illustrations in his book, and the one that sticks with me the most is his example of a restaurant menu. I am personally very indecisive and take forever to place my order. Moody suggests looking at relationships in a similar fashion as a restaurant menu. You would never choose to order everything on the menu, in much the same way that you should never just choose every relationship opportunity that comes along. Making choices that are healthy and positive for your life are important at a restaurant, but even more so in your relationships.
Learning how to make the most of your relationships, identifying unhealthy ones as well as positive, beneficial ones is the heart of this book. Moody offers very clear direction, lots of insight and much to ponder in every chapter. I took my time reading through this book, as I felt every chapter required much pondering. Each chapter ends with a list of key points and some very thought provoking questions. Some of these questions really took a lot of honest self-reflection to answer.
This book gave me a new perspective on relationships. Reading it has taught me to be much more selective about who I allow into my life, and to objectively evaluate my current relationships. After reading this, I feel like I am more equipped with the necessary tools to cultivate healthy life relationships. Highly recommended read!
I received a copy of this book for free in exchange for my honest review through the Thomas Nelson BookSneeze Program.